I had my gay friends over last night to watch a movie. Most of the night was spent talking, catching up, and comparing Toby to the gangly character in
All Over The Guy. This is a movie that I really like. It's a gay romantic comedy that lends itself to clever wittacisims and smart dialog. When the movie is funny, it's really funny. But when the movie is cheesy, it's almost painful. In this respect it really is just like any other romantic comedy but with gay characters.
Did the boys like it? Not really. Sylvain moaned and said, "when is it going to be over?" Jared was counting down the minutes. Toby and I found it romantic when one character made breakfast in bed for the other, while the other boys proclaimed that they would run out of the room if a guy ever did that for them. It's interesting to me to see this kind of perspective. Identity is so important in cinema. It's how we relate to the film. It's what keeps us there for two hours. In the case of standard Hollywood movies, especially in the case of romantic comedies, us gay folk, have to assimilate the roles of the straight couple being depicted on screen. This is something that doesn't usually cross the mind of the average straight white person because they have never had to assimilate to any Hollywood film.
For a gay male, or female for that matter, we have to pick one of the characters in the romantic comedy, the one with which we most identify, and assimilate their feelings and perspectives. Something to think about. So wouldn't tou think that five gay guys watching a gay romantic comedy would be pleased? Chris said, "it's gay so we almost have to like it." But most of the boys did not like it. They just thought it was a bad movie. I happen to really like the film. I own it. Perhaps we have become so accustomed to assimilation that we are somehow removed from the gay characters. We picked them apart and laughed at them, instead of with them. I find this paradox very interesting.
So would I recommend the film? Well, before last night I would have. :-) I still think the film is worth a watch. Most of my straight friends who saw the film seemed to really like it. That could have been a rouse in an effort to support me, but hopefully it was not. After my experience last night, I'm more interested in the straight assimilation of the film. I'm curious to know how a straight audience would view the film. Would they think it bad as well? Would they like it because they feel like they are supporting a cause? Or would they set aside the cliche attitudes of popular American culture and isolate the story for what it actually is?
In reality, most romantic comedies are cheesy. The chick flic, or the weapies as they used to be called, are sometimes painful to watch because they push the cheese factor. Usually they have their strong points, and we all hope for the idealism they portray in our own relationships, but have yet to find. If you know what the film is, you can really enjoy it. You can't go to see
How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days and expect to come out talking about Oscar. But if you know what the film is, you may actually like it. The same is true for this film.
I could go on about this some more but I won't. I don't feel as if I've even made a point yet, but I wanted to offer some perspective. If this is the kind of movie you are in the mood for then it is certainly worth a watch, otherwise, you may want to pick something else.